Saturday, October 25, 2008


I went to see the movie Fireproof today and I just have to blog about it. I think everyone (whether married, engaged or even single) should go see it. Any relationship can be strengthened through watching this movie. Or, best of can discover a new relationship with someone who will love you more than any human being on this earth!

I don't want to say too much...just go see it if you haven't! ...married or it. We need more movies out there like it!

Oh...and if you are an emotional person, take some tissue with you. There were several times I could not help but cry. There's also a book out - The Love Dare, that they mention in the movie, and I recommend this as well. If you click on my link above, you can see sample pages.

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

May you know His peace today...

The LORD bless you
and keep you;
the LORD make his face shine upon you
and be gracious to you;
the LORD turn his face toward you
and give you peace.
Numbers 6:24-26

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace
as you trust in him,
so that you may overflow with hope
by the power of the Holy Spirit.
Romans 15:13

And the peace of God,
which transcends all understanding,
will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:7

Monday, October 20, 2008

Just a few minutes...

I find myself missing this place! It's not always easy to sit down and write what's on my heart (especially when it's so public)...and sometimes I'm not even really sure what's on my heart, much less able to express it, but this evening as I was spending time in God's word I found this scripture to be very thought provoking:

For God is greater than our hearts,
and he knows everything.
1 John 3:20b.

When we struggle to love others, or ourselves, God is greater than our own hearts. Another reminder to me that NOTHING is impossible with God. Are you struggling to love someone, or to love yourself? The answer is found in knowing God and in allowing Him to love through you! Love...the love of God...never fails.

There are five words in verse 19 that express what my heart feels when I come to a place of surrender in the area of love - "at rest in his presence". Isn't that beautiful?! We can feel at rest in his presence when we are demonstrating love for other people. I think that is so powerful!

Thank you, Lord, for the love you while we were yet sinners, you died for us. We are so unworthy of your love, yet you freely and willingly give it. Help me to love others just as you have loved me and to forgive just as you have forgiven me.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Downfalls of Being a Chaplain's Wife

Just this morning I received a question - what are some of the downfalls of being a chaplain's wife? So, I thought to myself, maybe I'm not eluding to the difficulties we face, or maybe this person hasn't read some of the "issues" I've faced in the journey as of yet. Either way, I thought this was a good topic for today.

For anyone who has ever been in a church ministry setting, the chaplaincy is much different (at least it has been for us). My husband and I walked "hand in hand" every step of the way for 13 years of church ministry. The ministries changed... We started out Sunday School teachers to four and five year old children in a church in Germany (might I add, it was like 25 four and five year olds who won our hearts but wore us out every Sunday...we'd have to go home and take a nap! :) oh, but we loved it!), then we were asked to teach a young married couple's class (which was wonderful...and for the first time I saw that God was truly molding and shaping my husband for something even more beautiful.)

All this took place while my husband was in the Air Force. Somewhere along the way, God really got a hold of our hearts and our lives began to really change. My husband began to really surrender his whole heart to the Lord. He was a new man. Totally sold out for Christ. It was there that one day he knew for certain God had called him to be a minister. He had no idea what that looked like, or what to do, but he knew God wanted more and he was willing to give it.

From Germany, we moved to Oklahoma, where we quickly became involved in a church in the small town of Duke. It was really 400 people small. Not long after joining, we were asked to work with the youth. We had a wonderful ministry there. Many times my husband would tell me he had this strange urge to preach. Now, coming from a man who doesn't speak much, you can believe me when I say it was even foreign to him to have these feelings. But, I had already began to see the preacher in him as he would teach the youth. There before them stood a preacher, called by God, to minister to their young hearts. We worked and taught alongside each other and I kind of always imagined we'd just stay there...but God had other plans.

Towards the end of our time there, a church down the road (in an even smaller town) asked my husband to be their interim pastor, and so we made the tough decision to leave the church in Duke (not completely though, as I would still go on Sunday night and Wednesdays to work with the children...something that began when God showed me the children were needing someone to minister to them as well). This was a very loving church, where God could grow my husband and allow him the opportunity to preach. I was so moved by his preaching that I never wanted to hear anyone else! The church was small, and the people were much, much older than us...and the only children there were ours, but we knew it was God's will. It wasn't easy sometimes because there weren't any other children, but I was quickly able to look back and see that God was preparing us for something that would prove to make that time in our lives useful for the years ahead.

I know this is getting long so I'll just say that we ended up in Texas, my husband worked a full time job, went to seminary full time and after a few months also preached every Sunday. After starting the church in Arlington, serving alongside each other like never before, and imagining that we would probably be there for the rest of our lives, God messed with our plans!

Today, we are here, serving in a totally different way. The first few months, when I was busy helping us to settle into our new life, were fairly easy. Once I finished setting up "home" I began to feel the sadness of not having that "hand in hand" feeling of ministry. I missed not being able to serve alongside my husband and experience what he was. He was seeing God at work. He was understanding why we were here. He was seeing the fruit of his labor. Not at first though. I want to add that it wasn't an easy transition for him either. It took time to learn the ropes of the Army and the chaplaincy. Much was demanded of him, with little know how on his part.

Isn't it in those times when we see that it's God, not us, doing the work?!

When you question why you're at a place in your life where you can't seem to get your mind or hands around something and it just seems too big...hold on and trust the Lord! If you are certain it is He who called you to something, just continue to walk with Him! He will get you to where you need to be, and He will help you learn the ropes. Let Him carry you on the days when you can't see why it is you are where you are and it's not as easy as you imagined it would be.

There are things that aren't easy about being a chaplain's wife, or Army wife. I wouldn't necessarily call them downfalls. It's just different. My husband always says, "Different is just different, not better or worse," and I've come to understand that. Our ministry IS very different here. It's more one on one. It's more about him being out among the soldiers and me supporting him and praying for him and encouraging him...and when the opportunity arises for me to actual be there with him ministering (like the retreats and other things) I jump on it! Just hearing how God is moving in even one soldier's life moves me. Knowing my husband is ministering to those who would give their life for another and sacrifice daily fills my heart with joy. God has taught me a lot about trusting Him in this ministry.

There are days when I really, really miss our church family and all that we had there, but I also am fully aware that whatever it is that God calls us to do He will be right there to help us to accomplish His will. He will bring comfort when we are lonely. He will bring strength when we are weary and worn out. He will bring new friendships. He will bring new ministries our way. And, ultimately, He will be glorified for the work that is being done to bring people into fellowship with him.

When trying to count the cost of what it will mean to take a step into a different direction, you only have to ask yourself one thing - did the Lord call me to this? If He did, there are no downfalls, only possible hardships. And, He will be right there with you. All throughout scripture people faced hardships to further the kingdom. Count the cost. We're told to do that. But then, follow at all cost. There's no other way to live. Glory to God!

Sunday, October 5, 2008

Life IS good.

There are times I feel as though the world around me is spinning just a little too quickly. My oldest son just recently turned 21, our daughter is preparing to get married in December, our twins are about to turn 13, and, well, quite frankly, sometimes that's just a little too much for a mom to handle all in one year.

Good thing I'm not handling it all on my own!

This morning (I wrote this on Sunday...and am publishing it on Tuesday) in chapel the sermon was about rest for the weary and, although I don't feel weary right now, I loved the reminder of whose yolk I should be carrying.

Matthew 11:28-30, Jesus speaking -

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

Probably the heaviest load I carry sometimes, at this point in my life is 1) the thought of my husband deploying, and 2) there are days when I just don't want to let go of my kids. I had one of those moments last week where I stood in the doorway of my daughter's room sobbing like a baby. I love that they are maturing, but there are just those times when I want my kids to be little again so I can hold them in my lap and snuggle them! There are days when I don't want to give my daughter away, I don't want my oldest son to be living on the other side of the world (or so it seems!), I don't want my last two babies to be turning teenagers... I just DON'T. :)

Then there are days when I look around me and see that my children are turning out to be fine young adults, and we are about to enter into a new phase of life, and I'm excited about that too. How wild at times to think about the new phase of being in-laws and letting go even more. About this time last year we were experiencing all that comes with great change as we left our oldest two in Texas. Later God brought our daughter to us here, but we still had to begin a new life with two of our children far from us.

The burden could have been very heavy, but quickly we saw that the Lord was taking care of us all, and working in each of our lives to bring us to the place He wanted us to be. He's still at work. He's still growing us and teaching us all to lean on Him. From time to time though, I want to pick up my own yoke, throw it on my back, and try to make things turn out the way I want them. Today was a good reminder for me that HIS yoke is light, and to trust HIM in ALL things.

God IS in control and Life IS good.

Update on my mother in law

Thank you for the prayers! We finally got to hear her voice this morning...a very wonderful sound to our ears! She is out of ICU...praise the Lord! But, please continue to pray for the pain she is in and the migranes she is having, as well as her healing.

Thanks again for the prayers! We really appreciate it!

Saturday, October 4, 2008

Praise the Lord!!!

My son was able to get leave for our daughter's wedding and Christmas!!! ...we're all so very, very happy about that! God is good!!!

Prayer Request

Please pray for my mother-in-law. She was hit by a car while crossing the street yesterday (at a crosswalk). She's got a fractured hip (updated report since last night - they thought it was broken, but it's only a hairline fracture...praise God!), a broken tailbone, stitches on the back of her head and part of her ear was torn at the top (which they were able to repair yesterday with some stitches and staples).

Today she is still in ICU in serious condition, with migranes and vomiting, and in a lot of pain. Please pray for that she can rest peacefully and that her recovery will be quick! She is one very tough woman!

Talking with her husband, I know we are truly blessed that she is still with us. She was thrown in the air and flipped from the impact of the car...but, praise the Lord, she is alive!

Thank you for your prayers!

Thursday, October 2, 2008


Deployment is becoming more real for us. Not only for one person in our family, but two. Not our son, but our soon-to-be son in law. We're all aware anything can happen after the election, but it's very unlikely that we'll pull out right away.'s very real for us.

As for now, we're just walking this road God has paved for us and trusting Him in all things. It's not "new" news, just more news. Being that the time frame for when they will take off isn't definite and it looks to be more like next spring or summer, we'll just continue to take it one day at a time, cherish our time together even more, and know that God is in control.

It's not easy to think about my husband leaving for 12 months. In fact, I try my best not to think about it for now! But, if and when he does deploy, I have a wonderful friend who is showing me that everything will be OK. She's such a great example of God's overflowing comfort, peace and strength, as her husband is deployed right now. I see it in her every time we're together, and there's not a doubt in my mind that God orchestrated our friendship...and I'm so very, very grateful for that!!

At the Crosswalk

This morning on my drive to work I had to make a stop at the crosswalk. I didn't stop for children... I stopped for 10 Soldiers, carrying guns and all. I laughed at the thought that it's not every day that people stop at crosswalks for Soldiers with guns. I'm in a much different world now.

On a different subject...

A few minutes before noon today I got a call from my husband inviting me to lunch. It wasn't "out to lunch" though; it was lunch at his battalion with other Soldiers. We ate and then he prayed for requests they had and did a short devotional. It was a little awkward being that I was the only one that wasn't a Soldier, not to mention the only female, but I loved it. I think it's wonderful that he does this sort of thing with his Soldiers, and when I get the opportunity to see him in "action" I love it! I wish I could be there more often...